Expectations

My Thinking Differently series is not done, but I wanted to take a break to post about expectations.

One of the most common conversations I have with the horse people around me is about expectations.  The expectations they have of their horses, of their trainer, of themselves.  Should the be riding in shows by now? What has the trainer accomplished in thirty days?  Are they themselves good enough a horse person?  Should they be better?

Expectation gets even more complicated when we start to realize that what we are holding in ourselves actually has an impact on what happens.  Why is it that I can coach someone to duplicate exactly the physical motions that I am doing, and the person can be completely consistent in replicating their actions each attempt, but the horse has zero response.  Alternatively, why is there very little consistency in how I ask for things physically, but often so much more clarity than those people that are regimented in their repetition?

That’s only the beginning of the questions that whirl around when we start talking about expectations.  My own horsemanship (and dog work..and human work) is evolving in such a way that I am thinking about how powerful an expectation can be, and when it can be more powerful than the big-ness of attention seeking drama.

Yesterday I listened to a fascinating podcast on expectations that I wanted to share with you all.  It really resonated with me on so many levels and I would love to hear your thoughts. It dives into all of the above questions and I hope you find it as intriguing as I did.   The podcast is Invisibilia and the title of the show is How To Become Batman.  It is one of those not horsey but ENTIRELY horsey kind of things. http://www.npr.org/programs/invisibilia/378577902/how-to-become-batman

I was playing with these concepts of expectations to see how little I could do to get this worried loose horse to line up to me at the fence.  Expectation meant so much more than the flag.